Archive for August, 2009

The Invitation by Oriah Mountian Dreamer

Sunday, August 23rd, 2009

This poem is an invitation to live life fully, to design and create a life that makes us feel fully alive - to be totally present to our life, to risk, to love, to share, to connect on a deeper level with ourselves, with others and with our own spirituality. An invitation to redesign your life.

“The Invitation

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.

I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.

I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon.

I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain!

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.

I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see beauty even when it’s not pretty, every day, and if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.

I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here.

I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.

I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

Oriah Mountain Dreamer
copyright © 1999 by Oriah Mountain Dreamer.

What Empowering Step will you take today to live more fully?

The Guesthouse

Saturday, August 22nd, 2009

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.


Our emotions are messengers, not our identities.  No one is better than the other.  Each one brings a unique message.  If we sit with them in inquiry they reveal truths to us upon which we can then chose to act or respond versus automatically acting them out or being in reaction.  When describing your emotional state, own your feelings by stating I feel…. sad, angry, ashamed, selfish.
Our words are powerful, they create.  When we own our emotions as feelings, as messages, as signals it becomes more clear what actions we need to take., if any at all.   The language we chose gives us distance from the feeling, so that it is not spoken as if it were our identity, an attachment - I am selfish, I am angry, I am hurt, I am guilty.
When using I feel…. versus I am…. we can have a sense that the emotions are just passing through like our thoughts and it is not a permanent state of being.
Check in with yourself the next time you feel a strong emotion, be curious, non judgmental, just notice where you hold it in your body.
  • What does it feel like in your body?
  • Does it have a color, a shape, is there a metaphor that describes it?
  • What meaning are you giving to the emotion?
  • What is it telling you?
  • What is the message?
  • Listen - what are your choices now?

Something to Think about

Friday, August 21st, 2009

I was sent this email this morning and wanted to share this with my readers.  The author is unknown to me so if anyone knows the origin of the email I would like to give the proper acknowledgements.

Washington, DC Metro Station on a cold January morning in 2007.

The man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time approx. 2
thousand people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. After 3 minutes a middle aged man noticed there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried to meet his schedule.

4 minutes later:
The violinist received his first dollar: a woman threw the money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.

6 minutes:
A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.

10 minutes:
A 3-year old boy stopped but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the
violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. Every parent, without exception, forced their children to move on quickly.

45 minutes:
The musician played continuously.  Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.

1 hour:
He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed.. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.

No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin valued at $3..5 million dollars. Two days before, Joshua Bell sold out a theater in Boston where the price of seats averaged $100.

This is a true story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people’s priorities. The questions raised: in a common place environment at an inappropriate hour:

Do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?

What is our criteria for recognizing talent?

One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this:  If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made….

What else are we missing?

Power of self acceptance - loving who you are

Sunday, August 16th, 2009

vWe see things not as they are, but as we are….Immanuel Kant

  • Why is it important to accept myself just as I am?
  • How can I accept myself when I am in a negative space?
  • How can I accept myself when I know I am insecure?
  • How do I know whether or not I accept myself?
  • What is the difference between self awareness and self acceptance?

The beliefs we have can shape our entire lives and we may never know what they are. Find them. Then shape them so they work FOR you. Your self image is the lens through which you see the world and upon which you base all your decisions.  Your perception is a projection and the world is a mirror.

Join me Lydia Mattison host of an Empowering Space- Your Hour of Power on Thursday 20th August 2009, with my special guest joining me for a second time, Dr. Sheila Radha Conrad as we discuss the Power of Self Awareness.

Sheila ’s titles are diversified: a Spiritual Guide, Philosopher, Truth Seeker, Aritist, Dancer, Lover of Life.  She describes herself as a seeker of truth, equality and human justice. She has been a transformation counselor for 36 years.  Her purpose is to assist people in coming to clarity and alleviating their suffering, so their innate joy, wisdom, and beauty will arise.

What is the balance point between self-acceptance and personal growth, wanting to grow and improve ourself?

Self acceptance - accepting yourself - the good, the bad and the ugly, without guilt or a sense of inadequacy versus setting goals and wanting to evolve and grow and experience something even better than you experience now?

How do we resolve this conflict?

What do we accept?

What do we change?

The Self Principle according to Robert Holden is an essential key to potential, and talent, transformation and growth, success and happiness.  “The Self Principle states unequivocally that: the quality of your relationship with yourself determines the quality of your relationship with success, happiness and love, God, money, time, health, luck and everything.”...Success Intelligence - Robert Holden Phd.

  • What is the relationship you have with yourself at this moment?
  • How is that mirrored in your other relationships and your environment?
  • How do the beliefs you hold about yourself create your reality?
  • What beliefs have you accepted about yourself as truth?

Date:  August 20, 2009
Time: 5p PST/8 EST

Call in Number: 347-215-8414.

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Come join us for an engaging conversation.  Give this one hour to yourself.

Selfullness vs Selfishness

Sunday, August 16th, 2009

Knowing others is intelligence, knowing Yourself is true wisdom..…Lao Tzu

How do we embark on a journey of self discovery?

Here a few stepping stones that are keys to unlocking this puzzle called YOU.

self knowledge - the better you know yourself,  the better you can live with authority and authenticity.  It teaches you about your likes and dislikes, your inner strength, your values. It helps you discern what is purposeful vs pointless. the better you know yourself the more you will trust your own wisdom.

self awareness - the practice of becoming aware of your thoughts, beliefs, behaviours, reactions through self observation.  Becoming the an observer in our lives helps us become aware of the changes we want to make and what behaviours, habits, reactions, beliefs perspectives may need to shift. It helps us observe where our attention of focus automatically goes. You cannot change what you do not see. Self awareness is a practice and through inquiry we increase the power of our self observation.

Self acceptance is accepting yourself despite of who ‘You think you are.” It is being loving and happy with yourself right NOW. Most of us learned how to judge ourselves and not how to see ourselves. All throughout life we have been fed judgments, by parents, relatives, teachers, co-workers and we have taken in this feedback as truth vs someone’s opinion.  We have created our self image and identity around these judgments - what I can and I can’t do, who I am and who I am not.

Self acceptance is an agreement with yourself to appreciate, acknowledge, validate, accept and support who you are at this very moment, even those parts you’d like to eventually change.

self love, is learning to speak to ourselves gently, tenderly and with compassion vs constantly judging and criticizing ourselves on the inside.

As women we have been taught to deflect praise, we apologize for our accomplishments, we downplay our brilliance to level the field so that we do not shine out.  We keep ourselves small because we are concerned with what others may think.  We have compromised our dreams and completely lost ourselves in roles for fear of being called the dirty word “selfish.”

It is time to jump out of the passenger’s seat and become the driver, take control of your life. Shift your perspective from “selfishness” to “selfullness.”  Learn a new distinction that will open up so many more opportunities and possibilities for your life.

Selfullness: is filling your self and soul from the inside, so that your authentic self overflows to the outside. It puts your spirit into action.  When we transform from the inside, we cannot help but transform our outer world, and make a difference in a purposeful way.

It is no coincidence that when we are traveling on an airplane they tell us to put the oxygen mask on yourself first before attending to your children or anyone else. Taking care of yourself first so that you can have the energy to take care of others.

  • What do you most respect about yourself?
  • What are your strengths, talents and gifts?
  • What makes me good in my relationships?
  • What have I mastered about living life well?
  • What special lessons has my life taught me?
  • What do you most love about yourself?

What’s missing?

Saturday, August 8th, 2009

What is that illusive thing we seek, that no matter what achievements you have accomplished, something just seems to be missing,  there is an emptiness and you can’t seem to put your finger on it?  Sometimes when we are with friends or family we still feel lonely, something is missing.  We lack confidence to move forward even if we have the resources, there’s something there that just does not feel right. There’s something more to all of this - what is it?

  • Who are you when no one else is around?
  • Why do you still feel isolated, misunderstood, dissatisfied and unfulfilled?
  • What is your path to happiness?

The longest journey you will ever make in your life is from your head to your heart…Gary Zukav

Embarking on a journey to the heart, a journey of self awareness, self acceptance and self love, requires courage, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, clarity, choice and compassion.

Why do I need to know myself?

  • To understand what motivates me, what drives me
  • To understand my reactions in certain situations
  • to discover my unique strengths, talents and gifts that I bring to this world
  • to uncover my weaknesses
  • to know what limits and traps me
  • to observe my patterns and cycles
  • to face my fears
  • to know my defenses
  • to become aware of the specific issues that represent life challenges for me
  • to see where my attention goes
  • to understand why I see things differently from others
  • to deepen the connection in my relationships
  • to become more present and grounded in my life
  • to make better choices
  • to explore where I am hiding and keeping myself small
  • to uncover my personal truths
  • to live true to my authentic natural self that knows the way
  • to know what I truly want and what fulfills me
  • to live a magically empowered life
  • to use my personality to express the true brilliance of my soul
  • to heal my  past and move forward
  • to know what gives you meaning and purpose
  • to explore all aspects of my being, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual
  • to see that we each have a unique spiritual path and just because I am not on yours does not mean that I am lost.

So how much of your life is controlled by your personality and how much is inspired by your soul?

If you can’t quickly and confidently answer the list, then perhaps it is time to spend some time with yourself, getting to know yourself on a deeper level.

If you need to make changes on the outer it is time to look on the inner.

Empowered generation vs Lost generation

Thursday, August 6th, 2009

I wanted to share a most inspiring and creative poem with you. It is amazing how a shift in our perspective, looking at things from a different direction can shift our focus and attention.

What situation in your life needs a shift in focus today?

Shift Your Perspective