Archive for September, 2007

Power of Commitment

Friday, September 28th, 2007

My Guest is Georgina Terry FCCA.

Georgina Terry

* Georgina Terry has over 17 years experience in developing people within global organizations to achieve

outstanding business results, including her direct reports in her Financial Management roles and external clients in her Change Management Consultant, Business and Career Coach roles.

* Georgina has worked successfully in England, Trinidad, Jamaica, Equatorial Guinea, USA and Canada demonstrating that she has very strong coaching and implementation skills and an ability to adapt quickly to different cultures.

* Georgina is very passionate about helping people tap into who they are, so that they can achieve their maximum potential.

* Georgina firmly believes that you need to develop people to deliver outstanding results and not deliver results to develop people.

* Georgia is a friend, colleague, my business partner, Career Coach, Entrepreneur, who has walked the path of leaving her job to creating a vision, her own business, partnerships and a career that are aligned with her values, strengths, and integrity.

Our Topic:Power of Commitment- What are you committed to?

What does the word commitment mean to you?

Where are you willing to take a leap of faith?

How do we know what we are really committed to?

What sort of challenges do you encounter once you make a commitment?

How do we uncover our underlying, conflicting commitments?

How do we keep ourselves away from our commitments?

How do you know what you are committed to in your job or career?

Coaching tips to help you discover your commitments?

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Power of Intuition

Friday, September 21st, 2007

My Live First show is Thursday 27th September at 8:00pm.

Join me and my guest Karen Cappello at Empowering Space - Your Hour of Power.

We will explore the Power of Intuition -Strengthening the intuitive muscle.

What is intuition?

What blocks our intuition?

Why do we not trust our intuition?

How can we distinguish authentic intuition from vivid imagination?

What are some ways to enhance our intuition?

A look at some Intuitive Tools:

Exercise to develop your intuition.: Write a love letter to yourself. You will be amazed at what you uncover about yourself?

KarenKaren A. Cappello, CLC, PCC is a mentor coach, keynote speaker, and coach trainer. In her private practice, she supports coaches to achieve success with ease and joy. Karen brings over 25 years of experience and expertise from the fields of Business Management, Financial Services, and Higher Education to her practice. Karen is the Chief Learning Officer of International Coach Academy and also a Master Certified Inspired Learning Facilitator with the Foundation for Inspired Learning. She is credentialed through the International Coach Federation as a Professional Certified Coach.

Visit her at www.karencappello.com

T.A.R.O.T.

Sunday, September 16th, 2007

Transformation through Awareness, Reflection, Opportunity, and Truth.

I had the most awakening experience yesterday at the Joy’n the Journey workshop I co-facilitate with my friend and colleague Georgina Terry. The session was about acknowledgment so to make it fun and exciting, during our celebration of the participants’ acknowledgments we used the tarot deck to introduce a game . The object of the game was for each of the participants to acknowledge something in themselves, in others and have others acknowledge them.

No one present except myself had ever used the tarot, it was not introduced as the tarot, but as a card game, so that no one came to the game with any preconceived ideas, or beliefs.

It was simple. We spread out the cards in the centre of the participants, face down, and instructed them to choose four cards, explaining that whatever cards they chose would be the perfect card for them.

On looking at the cards you could see everyone’s face and attitude started to change, some of the cards had words or images that made them feel uncomfortable.

  • They wanted to change the cards,
  • They wanted to use another deck with happier faces
  • They could not imagine how to see something positive in some of the images
  • They did not know what the card meant
  • They wanted to have the right answer

I insisted that we carry on as I wanted to show them how varied everyones wisdom, experience and perspectives are. I shared with them that they would have to be open and listen to what their intuition was telling them. If they were open the answers would arise from within them. There are no right or wrong answers here, just different perspectives.
I asked them to look at the cards and choose one that represented Who they are now and share the significance of the card with others.

They needed to share something positive about the picture that acknowledges who they are. For some it was easy for others a bit challenging.

Next they were to choose a card that represents what empowers them - very interesting exercise. Some of the motivations were positive, while some were negative. Some were motivated in seeking of pleasure while others in the avoidance of pain.

The twist came when they had to shuffle the two remaining cards in their hands and face down choose a card without seeing the image. The chosen card would now represent something for which you would be acknowledged by each person in the group. This was challenging for most, as they had left the cards that made them feel uncomfortable in their hands. This represented blind spots.

Once again I asked each participant to focus on something positive for which to acknowledge the person. It was amazing to see how each person had interpreted the card, what they saw in each card, yet never having used the cards or aware of the traditional meanings, had each touched on one of these meanings and added another dimension.

Each person could not see anything positive for themselves, yet by the end of this round each person had acknowledged them for something different and had come together with their perspectives to see the essence of the person.

The last card was a gift you could either give to the group or any one particular person as a gift, or acknowledgment.

These were the cards that were the most difficult for them to look at in the beginning, but now they were able to see the value of the pain, the shadow, the darkness, and find the light they needed to shine for the group or person.

Everyone was joyous, playful, excited, energized, enthusiastic and enlightened by the experience. It opened their eyes to other peoples’ perspectives and saw the benefit of listening and learning from shared perspectives. They also got to learn something new about themselves that they can now acknowledge.

Another empowering workshop - I was awakened and enlightened to see T.A.R.O.T. in action.

The transformation from closed minds to open minds and hearts through awareness, reflection, opportunity - different perspectives, and the truth. Tapping in to their own truth, their inner wisdom and intuition.

W.O.W. moment - Women of Worth.

Why are we afraid to shine?

Sunday, September 16th, 2007

Why are we afraid to see the light in ourselves and others?

How do we keep ourselves small?

Power tool: Acknowledgments vs Compliments

Compliment: is said in admiration, praise or flattery, it’s on the surface and it is more about the observer than the recipient.

eg. I like that dress, the colour red looks good on you.

Acknowledgment: speaks to the underlying essence quality or value that is unique or special to a person, it is done in a very measured way, it honours something unique, special, it is a gift. You recognize the specialness and value of those around you. It is paying attention to how someone touches your life and impacts the world. The value comes not just from doing but from being. It is honouring and recognizing the value in yourself and others. When acknowledging someone it is as though whatever action is stopped, you are fully present. You are present with your thoughts and feelings.

eg. You have such a creative and stylish way of putting your clothes together. You have such a strong sense of flare, you are attractive and innovative, you inspire me to try new things and be creative.

What makes it so difficult for us to acknowledge ourselves or to receive acknowledgments from others ?

* Is it that society or education has so focused on what is missing or what is wrong, or trying to correct a weakness, we have forgotten how to look for what is right, working and strong?
* Do we feel like we are boasting or “tooting your own horn,” if you acknowledge something about yourself?
* Do you feel others will not agree with you?
* Do we feel embarrassed, ashamed to stand out?
* Does it feel unsafe, untrue, unreal?
* Do you feel left behind when you acknowledge others?
* What are we afraid of by acknowledging others or by acknowledging ourselves?
* What would happen if you gave yourself and others more credit?

How do we deflect acknowledgments?

* By laughing it off
* By correcting someone and using your own words
* By making it less than it really is
* By making a joke of it
* By keeping ourselves small
* By engaging in cross talk with another
* By adding your own comments

In what area of your life, would you like to acknowledge yourself more?

Acknowledgment is a gift, do not deflect it. When you deflect it it is like giving a gift back to the giver saying: I don’t want it. I don’t like your gift. It does not fit. I’m sure this is for someone else, not me.

How can you receive acknowledgment?

* Be open to receiving it as the gift it is
* Maintain eye contact with the person who is giving it and open your heart to receive
* A simple “Thank You” let’s the person know that you have heard and received the acknowledgment.
* Refrain from “cross talk” - talking to someone else - or comments back to the person giving you the acknowledgment

How can I give only authentic, positive acknowledgment and support?

* Be authentic
* Keep it simple and to the essence of what you experience
* Maintain eye and heart contact with the person to whom you are giving support
* Notice if you want to criticize, give unsolicited advice, counseling or consulting and release it without saying anything.

Action Tip:

Acknowledge three people today.

Find five things for which you can acknowledge yourself.

What we focus on expands so practice a positive focus and connect with your heart. What you perceive in others strengthen in yourself.

A Glimpse of Tarot

Sunday, September 9th, 2007

Using Tarot Images as an empowerment tool in coaching.

The most basic information that a coach would need to know is that the tarot deck consists of 78 cards- 22 Major Arcana archetypal symbol of man/woman’s inner journey through life and its lessons, 56 Minor Arcana – divided into 40 “pip” or numbered cards- represent the outer life and environments and 16 Court cards – aspects of personality or people in your life. The 56 Minor cards are divided into four suits. Wands, Cups, Swords and Pentacles. I have included some extra information. The tarot is a rich source of metaphors.

WandsWands,rods – fire energy, ignite, combust, illuminate - passion, inspiration, desire for growth-find value only in the meaning of an experience and have a purpose behind every action.

How can I creatively express who I am?
What inspires me and gets me fired up?

CupsCups – water energy, reflect, immerse, turbulent, buoyant, flow- emotions, love, relationships, imagination- provide nurturance, open to inner feeling, connectedness to others.
What are my emotional needs and how can I meet them?

What emotions are flooding me?

How receptive am I to this idea?

    Swords

    Swords – air energy, invention, communication, refinement, intellect – they dissect ideas think about it, talk about it, struggle with it, organize it, cut through anything focused on the issue- they judge solely on logic and reason, they thrive on the exchange of ideas and communication.

    What is the philosophy of life and how does my lifestyle reflect that philosophy?
    What needs to be communicated?

    How am I defending myself and my ideas?
    What is clouding the issue?

    PentaclesPentacles – earth energy, develop, manifest, embody, grounded, establish a new sense of security, - home, money, traditions, control or power, things we value and rewards for work well done.

    What are my physical and security needs and how do I meet them? What do I value?
    How can I become more grounded?

    How am I trying to establish security?
    What is the diamond in this dust heap?


    The suits alone help us understand on what level the client is dealing with the issue spiritual, emotional, mental and physical. The symbols help us create metaphor and language to build rapport with the client.


    The Court Cards are divided into four categories within each suit:

    Pages-open and willing to take risks, messengers, study, learn, try out

    Knights- adventurers, seeking new opportunities and insights, acquire new skills, expansion

    Queens – embody maturity, stable, receptive, nurturing, understand what must be done to bring ideas into reality, inner and interpersonal mastery-Tell you what to do

    Kings-mastery and maturity, commanding, outer accomplishments- Show you how to do it.

    Number cards or PIP Cards

    Ace- new energy, the realm of greatest potential, beginning, focus, new opportunities

    Two- Choice, opposing energies, partnering, balance, decision

    Three- creativity, co-operation, integration, blending, expression

    Four – rest, realization, order, foundation, structure,

    Fives – crisis, change, adversity, disturbance, conflict, difficulties, problem-solving

    Sixes- choice, knowledge, support, collaboration, harmony, accomplishment

    Sevens – challenges, tests, effort, taking chances, imagination and experiment, uncertainity

    Eights – adjustments, acknowledgements, re-evaluation, redirection, efficiency, movement

    Nines – limits, strengths, restoration, repose, culmination, completion

    Tens –necessity, wholeness completion and new beginning, responsibilities, community, transformation


    What’s in a name?

    Sunday, September 9th, 2007

    What does your name say about you?

    Well I will share my story here, this is the story of how I got my name as handed down to me by my mother:

    My mother was reading a story when she came upon the name - “Lydia“. It was of Greek origin.

    It means “of Lydia” in Greek. Lydia was a region on the west coast of Asia Minor. In the New Testament this is the name of a woman converted by Saint Paul. She so liked this name she decide that her first born girl would have this name. But sometimes God laughs at our plans and he steps in.

    On my mother’s wedding day her father had borrowed this expensive camera from his best friend for the occasion, and on arriving at the hotel to collect my mother, he had forgot the camera in the back seat of the taxi and the taxi had driven away. So my mother began to pray to St. Anthony, the patron saint of lost and stolen articles. My mom was not very religious but had a habit of always misplacing things and so had developed an intimate relationship with St. Anthony. She asked him if he returned the camera she would promise her first born child to him. No sooner had my mother finished her prayer and was ready to leave for the church, the taxi driver was in the lobby looking for my grandfather. When she thanked him, he told her that he was in two minds to keep the camera and drove around the block a couple of times and then a voice told him to return the camera. Being born in Madrid, Spain and having a Spanish father I was named Antonia Lydia Sanchez-Ache. Spanish children carry the Father and mothers surname, I guess so everyone knows who you belong to, and who to go to whenever you get into trouble.

    Well I started thinking - St. Anthony of Padua, the contemplative, was a preacher and a teacher, was the patron saint of lost and stolen items , also the poor and travelers.

    Click here for more info on St Anthony.

    How could that possibly relate to my coaching?

    • Well I offer that space where you can come to re discover, to contemplate all that seems lost to you. A place to see where you have misplaced your time, energy, freedom, self-expression and personal power. What steals these away from you?
    • People come to me because at times they do not see the abundance in their lives, they feel drained, empty, stuck, can’t see their way forward, what they have to offer.
    • My first workshop is entitled Joy’n the Journey, a one year journey, where we meet once a month for group coaching. We call ourselves travelers and journeyers, on a contemplative path of self-discovery, bringing joy, passion, fulfillment and purpose to our lives.

    Perhaps there is more to a name than we can really see, look for your connections, look for the gifts. It is difficult at times to see how things are unfolding, but when we look at things with fresh eyes, new perspectives, possibility, you can see the lessons and the gifts, and a purpose can unfold before your eyes.

    What’s your story behind your name?

    My Biggest Wow - wildest thing.

    Tuesday, September 4th, 2007

    WHAT IS THE WILDEST MOMENT YOU CAN REMEMBER?

    I don’t know how it works for others, but when I am asked a question, a thought pops into my head and eventhough I may try to shake it, sometimes it will not let me go and I know that is what I need to share. Today is the 8th anniversary of my mom’s passing, and as I look back, I wanted to share this wild moment.

    So my biggest wow was having to sit with my mom, who had cancer and plan her funeral, write her obituary, design her coffin and treat this event as a major party event in her life. I took dictation six months before she passed. We planned, and brainstormed, all the while we laughed, entertained ourselves and made a most serious and morbid experience one of the most treasured and extra-ordinary.

    She had a guest list of fifty people she wanted at the funeral, this was totally unrealistic as she was very loved and a social butterfly. We joked about her leaving me and going to “Lalaland” and I would be stuck here telling people they are not on “The List.” She dictated her letter of wishes stating to whom each item of value would go. She planned her private cremation “party” and gave me instructions that the obituary would not go into the newspapers until the day after, so I would not be bombarded with calls. She stated at the end of the obituary that her friends and family were invited to a “Cooler Party” (everyone brings their drinks) at her home by the sea in Blanchisseuse. Come celebrate my life and bring a Pelau ( a rice, chicken, peas dish that is a specialty in Trinidad) it stated.

    The wow for me was the most incredible and intimate conversations I had with my mom, and the valuable lesson she taught me. Live, Love and Laugh a whole lot. Laughter is the best medicine.

    The best part of this is that every thing I wrote down, happened exactly as she had planned, even the night she slipped away in the wee hours of the morning, surrounded by only her family. Every detail of her plan occurred exactly as it was written. Even in her last days she could plan a future, have a vision and set her own goals. We were left to celebrate. Holding the space for my mom as she slipped away was a life-changing experience for me.

    Thank you so much for giving me the opportunity to revisit this WOW moment -Women Of Worth doing wild things.

    I also lost my mother-in-law in March last year, another WOW women and WOW moment. It was a totally different experience than my mom’s passing. Yet I know that even though she did not write down her plans everything has a divine timing and nothing happens before it should. Even when the body and mind could hold on no longer, her essence, her soul, her spirit held on for that specific moment, when a daughter and son would be both present to say goodbye.

    Yet I believe there are angels that greet us when we are born and those that are there to say goodbye. If ever you are present to witness the passing it is a lesson for you, that if you are totally present will forever change your life. You are one of those angels when you are present to witness the passing. I believe that death is truly the doorway to life - our life, a way of deepening our consciousness. I treasure every moment I have been at the side of a loved one that has passed and there have been many, they have been the most compassionate moments of my life.

    I believe that surrounding our love ones, and holding that sacred space for them is the most loving thing we can do. Those moments are the WOW moments in my life.

    Passion and Purpose

    Tuesday, September 4th, 2007

    Temperance Looking at this image:

    Where can you see passion and purpose?

    This is the card of Temperance. It signifies the blending and combining to create something new or distinctly different.

    Temperance asks us to combine spontaniety, and knowledge and preserve the best aspects of the past and find new and creative uses for them in the present.

    Recognize unconscious material and mix it with conscious awareness so that it “flows” as one.

    When I looked at this card I saw the water as life, the jug as purpose ( the context for your life), and the woman as passion.

    There is an ease and gracious quality to this card, which I find very exciting.

    When we follow our passions, we have an intention,(she is focused), we give it attention (commitment and persistence)and then there is no tension.(ease, grace, flow)

    When we are passionate about something, it is because it brings us joy, because that activity allows us to grow, to expand and to evolve.

    Passions are how you live your life, goals are things which you achieve.
    Keys to creating a passionate life: commitment, clarity, attention, keeping an open mind, integrity, persistence, follow your heart.

    Some of my passions;

    • Bringing joy
    • Sharing quality time and moments with my family
    • Sharing intimate moments with my husband
    • Challenging myself and others
    • Inspiring others
    • Learning and exploring
    • Being curious
    • Teaching others
    • Seeing possibilities
    • New perspectives
    • Paradigm shifts
    • Being open and understanding in my relationships
    • Having a huge and magnanimous heart
    • Bridging the spiritual with everyday
    • Making connections
    • Showing empathy, compassion
    • Expressing who I am
    • Fostering cooperation
    • Creating order from chaos
    • Being enlightened
    • Connecting with people who share my values
    • Nurturing my spirit
    • Coaching

    What are you passionate about?