Archive for May, 2007

What is Hummingbird telling you?

Monday, May 28th, 2007

I have had an amazing opportunity to have my own radio show present itself this month. It is truly amazing when you set an intention in your life and things you do not even imagine start showing up……

That night I was looking at an internet radio pro gramme that I usually listen to, so that I could get a feel of coaching on the airwaves. As the window popped up the pro gramme that was on the air live was the pro gramme “Hummingbird, by Stephen Farmer. What would Hummingbird like you to know?”

How perfect I needed validation through the internet, and it came through the airwaves on a coaching program, in the form of a question that I needed answered. It was brilliant.

A huge smile and a loving warm feeling just covered my being, like a warm, toasty blanket, safe and cozy.

Once again, I knew that my mother was using the internet to communicate with me. She had made me a promise before she died that anytime I needed her she would be there for the hummingbird and follow the signs. She also said that she would learn to use the computer when she crossed over, so I have received many sign since she left and through the internet or email. One gift my mother left me with is being able to look for the extra-ordinary in ordinary things. I can look for the miracles as they occur in my life, such joy, such a quest, such treasured moments.

The hummingbird has bought much joy to my life.

This was just one of those signs, look for the messages that hummingbird brings you :

Legends say that hummingbirds float free of time, carrying our hopes for love, joy and celebration.

Hummingbirds open our eyes to the wonder of the world and inspire us to open our hearts to loved ones and friends.

Like a hummingbird, we aspire to hover and to savor each moment as it passes, embrace all that life has to offer and to celebrate the joy of everyday.

The hummingbird’s delicate grace reminds us that life is rich, beauty is everywhere, every personal connection has meaning and that laughter is life’s sweetest creation.

This is the possibility that I am inventing for myself with my pro gramme, the possibility of loving, empowering charismatic conversations with my listeners, so that they may experience joy, love and laughter, and where they may celebrate and focus on their brilliance: AN EMPOWERING SPACE

So stay tuned and keep checking, as I create this space for you this September.

Guidance - Dancing with God

Monday, May 28th, 2007

When I meditated on the word GUIDANCE , I kept seeing “dance” at the end of the word. I remember reading that, doing God’s will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn’t flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky. When one person realizes that, and let’s the other lead, both bodies begin to flow with the music. One gives gentle cues, perhaps with a nudge in the back, Or by pressing Lightly in one direction or another. It’s as if two become one body,moving beautifully. The dance takes surrender, willingness,and attentiveness form one person, and gentle guidance and skill from another. My eyes drew back to the word GUIDANCE . When I saw “G”: I thought of God, followed by “u” and “i” “God”, “u” and “i” “dance”. God, you and I dance. As I lowered my head, I became willing to trust That I would get guidance about my life. Once again, I became willing to let God lead. My prayer for you today is that God’s blessings and mercies be upon you on this day and everyday. May you abide in God as God abides in you. Dance together with God, Trusting God lead and guide to guide you through each season of your life.

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Use of Guidance cards as a tool in coaching.

Monday, May 28th, 2007

I often use cards with my clients only when they are open and willing. I have achieved amazing results and insights for both the client and myself. I use a variety of decks, Tarot, Grace Cards , Healing Cards and Self-care cards.

Here are some of the benefits of incorporating decks within a coaching session:

  • Builds rapport
  • Shifts Perspective
  • Uncovers limiting beliefs
  • Creates Passion
  • Highlights values
  • Identifies fears
  • Removes obstacles, blocks and challenges
  • Creativity and brainstorming
  • Acknowledges gifts, talents, skills
  • Sets Goals
  • Clarifies steps that can be taken to achieve goals

The Guidance Cards have helped my clients “see” their issue, as the art image acts as a mirror. Clients had huge insights, and were able to break through barriers much more easily than by auditory coaching - only using questions.

Tarot helped them to see clearly what they consciously might not want to acknowledge. It makes them aware of blind spots that they may have.It gives them deeper layers of insight and reveals common themes of which they were unaware.

It makes the session fun and creates a mood of playfulness, which allows the client to be relaxed and open to creativity and exploration in solutions to the issue at hand.

Tarot also provides them with confidence in themselves and learning to trust their “gut feelings”, their intuition, their inner knowing. It is extremely vallidating.

It ‘Cuts to the chase’ in a non-threatening self-paced fashion
It is the client’s interpretation that is brought to the fore and it is this interpretation that is explored further, with coaching questions and inquiries.

The descriptive story that the client tells is reframed into the client’s personal reality, emotions, feelings attitudes of the figures are described by the client. Because the card mirrors your life it mirrors your feelings. E-motion is energy in motion, it is a readiness to act. It is impossible for people to think of every possibility, so that emotions become our coping mechanism, they help us cope with the unexpected and they attempt to find more beneficial and advantageous circumstances for us. Emotions shape how we see the world and give life its meaning. Our beliefs arise from the feelings we give to an event, that in turn creates our perspective and reality. Our feelings then determine our actions and then our consequences and outcome. When we work with cards it allows us to see and hear how the images are interpreted by the client and through the client’s eyes. It puts us in their world and we are then able to be more empathetic.

There are many benefits to using guidance cards- it is a tangible, visual tool - a picture is worth a thousand words Take a chance and open a door to self discovery and empowerment. Remember the cards are all you - every aspect of you. It is your life journey to self-discovery.

How I coach

Monday, May 28th, 2007

My coaching style builds a very unique relationship. Together we design and personalize your program to fit your needs. Your session provides a trusting, non-judgmental environment where you can tap into your resourcefulness and creativity, to produce solutions and strategies and make powerful changes in your life. I offer you the option to use guidance cards during our sessions, which assist you in seeing new perspectives, and help you to develop and deepen your intuition. I will challenge you to remove any obstacles, doubts, fears, or limiting beliefs, that may be holding you back from achieving your potential. I will assist you in clarifying your goals, dreams and desires, so you reorient your life exclusively around your values, to get more of what you want.

Together we will design a plan of action for achieving your goals and desires and I will keep you on track. At the end of the session I will work with you to design specific assignments to complete before our next session, or an inquiry to journal. At every stage, you, the client have absolute discretion about what changes, time line and steps you are committed to take. As coaches, we believe you are the expert in your life and you have all the answers within, it is our job to ask the evocative questions. I use an integral approach as it affects all areas of your life. It helps you balance your doing with your being.

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Cornerstones of coaching

Monday, May 28th, 2007

My Coaching Philosopy:

Awareness - We, as coaches, believe that the client knows all of the answers. We ask powerful questions which invokes the client to explore their inner wisdom. It is a journeySUPPORT of self-discovery where you discover your values, skills, interests, passions, and ambitions.

Acceptance – Everyone is perfect, whole and complete exactly where they are.

Responsibility – You, the client, are responsible for your thoughts, words and the actions you take. It implies choice, self-motivation and self-reliance. When you consciously choose your responses to life, you purposely create the life you desire. The coach is there to support and believe in you, even when you do not believe in yourself.

Acknowledgment- We acknowledge and honour who the client is, as he/she accomplishes whatever action he/she takes, or the level of awareness that he/she achieves in the process.

Change – We work on the inner to transform the outer. Coaching is action based: by doing we discover.

Partnership – It is a co-creative partnership. We help the client to become aware.

Confidentiality - A trusting environment where what you share is totally confidential.

I design the coaching sessions according to the client’s agenda, what is important to you.- the client. The client gives feedback to the coach, to inform them of what is working for them, while the coach keeps the client on target with their goals.

What is Life Coaching?

Monday, May 28th, 2007

What is life coaching?

A space filled with you …
Life coaching is a series of conversations held in an environment of trust, belief and possibility that support and empower the client to express their authentic self and design a life filled with opportunity and fulfillment.

I work with clients who are overwhelmed, confused and stressed, who want a change in their lives, but seem stuck and unable to move forward, or see any options.

My services help them to clarify their values, find meaning, fulfillment and direction, to restore the heart, soul and quality of their life. I help them achieve awareness, clarity, and focus on their brilliance.

Coaching creates a safe “selfulness” space for the client –

You are the focus
Who you are
What you want
How you can achieve this!

IT IS A SPACE FILLED WITH YOU! - An empowering space where there is no judgment. A space filled with your thoughts, your words, your dreams, your vision, your goals, and the actions you are willing to take to create your future.

Selfulness: is filling your self and soul from the inside, so that your authentic self overflows to the outside. It puts your spirit into action. When we transform from the inside, we cannot help but transform our outer world.

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Whats in it for you?

Benefits of working with a personal life coach:

Get focused on what you most want to have.

A balanced life filled with opportunity, meaning, purpose, and fulfillment.

Build a strong personal foundation.

Creatively and confidently express yourself.

Build reserves in time, energy, money and love.

Clarify and reorient your life around your values.

Live fearlessly with no excuses and no regrets.

Re-design lifestyle habits.

Move through blocks, obstacles, and challenges.

Eliminate hassles in your life.

Learn to take more and better action.

Calm down, eliminate stress, and procrastination.

Learn to communicate more effectively.

Attract and deepen quality relationships.

Accelerate personal and professional growth.

Have more fun - balance work and play.

Make better personal and business decisions because you have a clear focus.

Support to help you make changes and not feel consumed in the process.

Ensure that your heart, mind, and soul are in alignment with the actions you take.

Life Coaching

Monday, May 28th, 2007

Do you feel wiped out by a constant flood of emotion?

Are you feeling overwhelmed by too many decisions?break

Unable to see your way forward?

Do you feel like your life is out of control?

Are you tired of being stuck in a rut?

Would you like to stop suffering, tolerating, hoping, and waiting?

Is there something standing in the way of your happiness?

Do you want to deepen and attract quality relationships?Are you ready to focus on what you really want?

Are you ready to gain clarity and bring your brilliance into focus?

Are you ready to do what you love, and love what you do?Are you willing to make the necessary changes, to create what you want in your life.

Do you want to build confidence in your ability to handle anything that comes your way in life?

Links:

What is life coaching?

Cornerstones of Coaching

How I coach

Tarot as an empowerment tool in coaching

Joy’n the Journey Workshops

Stepping out of the Box - Enneagram workshop

Teacher’s Workshop Review

Testimonials

About Me

Sunday, May 27th, 2007

Growing up in a home where divorce was always a lurking shadow, I experienced anxiety, upheaval, separation, and have since been committed to creating quality relationships in my life.

I am happily married for the past  31 years to the man of my dreams. We share our lives with three amazing children. They inspire me every day and motivate me toLydia Mattison contribute to the world and to see life for the wonderful thing it is. Marriage and Motherhood shows my commitment, responsibility, generosity, and loyalty. It has made me a good listener, communicator, and team player, all of which are essential skills for an ideal coach.

Our Family Business has taught me many organizational skills. Multi-tasking, prioritizing and motivating have proven to be valuable skills in coaching. I am responsible for the creative aspects of the business, research, designs and finishes. In this business we focus on creating external beauty, while I now assist my clients through coaching in making their life a creative expression of who they are. Once we feel beautiful on the inside we cannot help but radiate that brilliance on the outside, so that it affects all areas of our lives and touches all of our relationships. Awareness lets us see the beauty in our lives and by transforming from the inside out, we are able to put our spirit into action.

I have also been able to connect with people, through the hosting of a series of intuitive workshops and one-day seminars with a motivational speaker. Because of meaningful life changing experiences in grief, which began at the age of 15 when I lost my brother, I have been able to talk with and help others walk through the process of grieving and healing. It has taught me empathy and compassion.

I believe that I have been unofficially coaching all of my life, even before I knew there was a name for it, because of this I was inspired to enroll in a training program with an international organization - The International Coach Academy - accredited by the International Coaching Federation. I have had both the experience of being coached and coaching others and I am part of an extremely resourceful coaching community. Having graduated a Certified Professional Life Coach from ICA, I have continued studies in many additional areas,group coaching, body centered coaching, transformational presence coaching, graphic recording, and enneagram training.  I am continually learning and training, and I am passionate and inspired to work with the Enneagram, a profound and comprehensive tool for self awareness, and creating meaningful and lasting relationships, both personally and professionally.

I work with clients who are overwhelmed, confused, and stressed, by love, life, and loss and who are seeking to rediscover who they are, remove obstacles, find direction, get clarity, build confidence and make powerful changes. With the invaluable wisdom of the enneagram, I support them in rediscovering their who they are, so they are aware of their unique gifts to the world. I bring their brilliance into focus. Working with the enneagram we are able to transform self defeating behaviours into life enhancing empowering choices. All there is between you and success is a little AWARENESS.

I also work with clients who are suffering silently and alone in grief and need help to move through the process to restore heart and soul to the quality of life.

All you need is an empowering space, the space to focus on you.