Archive for the ‘’ Category

Power of Communication- What do you really want to say?

Monday, September 14th, 2009

There is nothing more moving, inspiring, or effective than speaking form the heart.

Join my guest Sheila Radha Conrad M.A. and me, Lydia Mattison host of Empowering space - Your Hour of Power as we share an insightful and transformational conversation on the Power of Communication

at 8:00pm EST Thursday 17th September, 2009

Come join in our conversation and learn to express yourself genuinely as we discover how we hide behind our language.

Have you ever noticed that most human interaction is based on enrolling people in complaints?  Complaining is such a huge part of human interaction that we are not even aware to what extent we are doing it every moment of our lives. We are either complaining about something or a complaint waiting to happen.

  • I am so busy, I don’t have time to breathe.
  • I wish we could get together but I just don’t know where the time goes.
  • Why don’t people do their job?
  • Oh my back hurts?
  • Why don’t you come visit more often?
  • This sun is so hot.

We relate to our complaints as though they were the TRUTH.  A complaint is a projection.  A complaint is a request waiting to happen.  A complaint is an opportunity to look at yourself. An opportunity to give what you want to receive.

Looking at your complaints, consider how your life would be without those complaints?

Consider that you can have a life free of all those complaints, what would life be like?

How can you transform complaints into possibilities?

How does our communication block us from our compassionate nature?

How can we remain present and connected during our communication?

Meet us Thursday 17th September 2009, 8:00pmEST at www.blogtalkradio.com/empoweringspace

Call in number: 347 215 8414

Power of self acceptance - loving who you are

Sunday, August 16th, 2009

vWe see things not as they are, but as we are….Immanuel Kant

  • Why is it important to accept myself just as I am?
  • How can I accept myself when I am in a negative space?
  • How can I accept myself when I know I am insecure?
  • How do I know whether or not I accept myself?
  • What is the difference between self awareness and self acceptance?

The beliefs we have can shape our entire lives and we may never know what they are. Find them. Then shape them so they work FOR you. Your self image is the lens through which you see the world and upon which you base all your decisions.  Your perception is a projection and the world is a mirror.

Join me Lydia Mattison host of an Empowering Space- Your Hour of Power on Thursday 20th August 2009, with my special guest joining me for a second time, Dr. Sheila Radha Conrad as we discuss the Power of Self Awareness.

Sheila ’s titles are diversified: a Spiritual Guide, Philosopher, Truth Seeker, Aritist, Dancer, Lover of Life.  She describes herself as a seeker of truth, equality and human justice. She has been a transformation counselor for 36 years.  Her purpose is to assist people in coming to clarity and alleviating their suffering, so their innate joy, wisdom, and beauty will arise.

What is the balance point between self-acceptance and personal growth, wanting to grow and improve ourself?

Self acceptance - accepting yourself - the good, the bad and the ugly, without guilt or a sense of inadequacy versus setting goals and wanting to evolve and grow and experience something even better than you experience now?

How do we resolve this conflict?

What do we accept?

What do we change?

The Self Principle according to Robert Holden is an essential key to potential, and talent, transformation and growth, success and happiness.  “The Self Principle states unequivocally that: the quality of your relationship with yourself determines the quality of your relationship with success, happiness and love, God, money, time, health, luck and everything.”...Success Intelligence - Robert Holden Phd.

  • What is the relationship you have with yourself at this moment?
  • How is that mirrored in your other relationships and your environment?
  • How do the beliefs you hold about yourself create your reality?
  • What beliefs have you accepted about yourself as truth?

Date:  August 20, 2009
Time: 5p PST/8 EST
Location:     www.blogtalkradio.com/empoweringspace

Call in Number: 347-215-8414.

You can register as a listener in four easy steps at www.blogtalkradio.com/register
Come join us for an engaging conversation.  Give this one hour to yourself.

Power of Inquiry - questions that connect you with your intuition

Sunday, September 21st, 2008

How can we remember our spirit in the midst of negative situations?

How can we create authentic power?

It is so difficult in the midst of a heated argument or some challenging situation in your life  to remember that this circumstance is designed for your benefit.  If you can hold the thought that, no matter what circumstance is showing up in your life and how challenging it may be, it is designed for your spiritual growth.

  • How could holding that thought allow you to see the situation differently?
  • How could the process of inquiry serve you?
  • What powerful questions might help you connect with your intuition?
  • How will you recognize your intuition or inner voice?
  • What could you learn from the situation?
  • What could you learn about yourself?
  • How could you become the person you want to be?
  • How could inquiry and your intuition reconnect you with your essential nature?

Join me, Lydia Mattison,  on Thursday 25th at 8:00pm EST Empowering Space - Your Hour of Power.

My guest this week is Julie L. Cusmariu.  Julie is an Intuitive Consultant & Life Coach who specializes in connecting individuals to their intuition to live a more meaningful and inspiring life.  She assists individuals in awakening to their life purpose and authentic self. Julie cares deeply about leading individuals on a journey towards greater self-discovery and endless possibilities. You can read Julie’s Intuition Blog at www.juliecusmariu.com/blog.

Ask yourself:
“Who do I know would most benefit from this show?
Be quiet for a moment and sense the answer coming from within you.
Take action and send a link.
www.blogtalkradio.com/empoweringspace
Visit this link to see Inquiry in action with Byron Katie and The Work
http://www.youtube.com/user/lydiamattison
THE WORK on the web
Judge your neighbour worksheet
Instructions for doing the work

Shifting Perspectives

Friday, November 9th, 2007

I had an amazing coaching session on the radio last night using the Art Guidance Cards developed by Karin Bauer. Listen to archive in blue blog talk player in sidebar. I am totally passionate about cards all forms and types of oracle cards, guidance cards, tarot. Every time I use them it never ceases to amaze me how deep you can really go to uncover and rediscover truths about yourself.

My intention and question which was the focus of the session was:

How can I empower my listeners at Empowering Space?

She uses one image, which is turned 90 degrees to achieve each new perspective. The fifth perspective becomes the original perspective - through the wider framework of having seen the four perspectives and how they have expanded your vision of the card.

Here’s what came up for me…..

(more…)

Why are we afraid to shine?

Sunday, September 16th, 2007

Why are we afraid to see the light in ourselves and others?

How do we keep ourselves small?

Power tool: Acknowledgments vs Compliments

Compliment: is said in admiration, praise or flattery, it’s on the surface and it is more about the observer than the recipient.

eg. I like that dress, the colour red looks good on you.

Acknowledgment: speaks to the underlying essence quality or value that is unique or special to a person, it is done in a very measured way, it honours something unique, special, it is a gift. You recognize the specialness and value of those around you. It is paying attention to how someone touches your life and impacts the world. The value comes not just from doing but from being. It is honouring and recognizing the value in yourself and others. When acknowledging someone it is as though whatever action is stopped, you are fully present. You are present with your thoughts and feelings.

eg. You have such a creative and stylish way of putting your clothes together. You have such a strong sense of flare, you are attractive and innovative, you inspire me to try new things and be creative.

What makes it so difficult for us to acknowledge ourselves or to receive acknowledgments from others ?

* Is it that society or education has so focused on what is missing or what is wrong, or trying to correct a weakness, we have forgotten how to look for what is right, working and strong?
* Do we feel like we are boasting or “tooting your own horn,” if you acknowledge something about yourself?
* Do you feel others will not agree with you?
* Do we feel embarrassed, ashamed to stand out?
* Does it feel unsafe, untrue, unreal?
* Do you feel left behind when you acknowledge others?
* What are we afraid of by acknowledging others or by acknowledging ourselves?
* What would happen if you gave yourself and others more credit?

How do we deflect acknowledgments?

* By laughing it off
* By correcting someone and using your own words
* By making it less than it really is
* By making a joke of it
* By keeping ourselves small
* By engaging in cross talk with another
* By adding your own comments

In what area of your life, would you like to acknowledge yourself more?

Acknowledgment is a gift, do not deflect it. When you deflect it it is like giving a gift back to the giver saying: I don’t want it. I don’t like your gift. It does not fit. I’m sure this is for someone else, not me.

How can you receive acknowledgment?

* Be open to receiving it as the gift it is
* Maintain eye contact with the person who is giving it and open your heart to receive
* A simple “Thank You” let’s the person know that you have heard and received the acknowledgment.
* Refrain from “cross talk” - talking to someone else - or comments back to the person giving you the acknowledgment

How can I give only authentic, positive acknowledgment and support?

* Be authentic
* Keep it simple and to the essence of what you experience
* Maintain eye and heart contact with the person to whom you are giving support
* Notice if you want to criticize, give unsolicited advice, counseling or consulting and release it without saying anything.

Action Tip:

Acknowledge three people today.

Find five things for which you can acknowledge yourself.

What we focus on expands so practice a positive focus and connect with your heart. What you perceive in others strengthen in yourself.

A Glimpse of Tarot

Sunday, September 9th, 2007

Using Tarot Images as an empowerment tool in coaching.

The most basic information that a coach would need to know is that the tarot deck consists of 78 cards- 22 Major Arcana archetypal symbol of man/woman’s inner journey through life and its lessons, 56 Minor Arcana – divided into 40 “pip” or numbered cards- represent the outer life and environments and 16 Court cards – aspects of personality or people in your life. The 56 Minor cards are divided into four suits. Wands, Cups, Swords and Pentacles. I have included some extra information. The tarot is a rich source of metaphors.

WandsWands,rods – fire energy, ignite, combust, illuminate - passion, inspiration, desire for growth-find value only in the meaning of an experience and have a purpose behind every action.

How can I creatively express who I am?
What inspires me and gets me fired up?

CupsCups – water energy, reflect, immerse, turbulent, buoyant, flow- emotions, love, relationships, imagination- provide nurturance, open to inner feeling, connectedness to others.
What are my emotional needs and how can I meet them?

What emotions are flooding me?

How receptive am I to this idea?

    Swords

    Swords – air energy, invention, communication, refinement, intellect – they dissect ideas think about it, talk about it, struggle with it, organize it, cut through anything focused on the issue- they judge solely on logic and reason, they thrive on the exchange of ideas and communication.

    What is the philosophy of life and how does my lifestyle reflect that philosophy?
    What needs to be communicated?

    How am I defending myself and my ideas?
    What is clouding the issue?

    PentaclesPentacles – earth energy, develop, manifest, embody, grounded, establish a new sense of security, - home, money, traditions, control or power, things we value and rewards for work well done.

    What are my physical and security needs and how do I meet them? What do I value?
    How can I become more grounded?

    How am I trying to establish security?
    What is the diamond in this dust heap?


    The suits alone help us understand on what level the client is dealing with the issue spiritual, emotional, mental and physical. The symbols help us create metaphor and language to build rapport with the client.


    The Court Cards are divided into four categories within each suit:

    Pages-open and willing to take risks, messengers, study, learn, try out

    Knights- adventurers, seeking new opportunities and insights, acquire new skills, expansion

    Queens – embody maturity, stable, receptive, nurturing, understand what must be done to bring ideas into reality, inner and interpersonal mastery-Tell you what to do

    Kings-mastery and maturity, commanding, outer accomplishments- Show you how to do it.

    Number cards or PIP Cards

    Ace- new energy, the realm of greatest potential, beginning, focus, new opportunities

    Two- Choice, opposing energies, partnering, balance, decision

    Three- creativity, co-operation, integration, blending, expression

    Four – rest, realization, order, foundation, structure,

    Fives – crisis, change, adversity, disturbance, conflict, difficulties, problem-solving

    Sixes- choice, knowledge, support, collaboration, harmony, accomplishment

    Sevens – challenges, tests, effort, taking chances, imagination and experiment, uncertainity

    Eights – adjustments, acknowledgements, re-evaluation, redirection, efficiency, movement

    Nines – limits, strengths, restoration, repose, culmination, completion

    Tens –necessity, wholeness completion and new beginning, responsibilities, community, transformation


    Passion and Purpose

    Tuesday, September 4th, 2007

    Temperance Looking at this image:

    Where can you see passion and purpose?

    This is the card of Temperance. It signifies the blending and combining to create something new or distinctly different.

    Temperance asks us to combine spontaniety, and knowledge and preserve the best aspects of the past and find new and creative uses for them in the present.

    Recognize unconscious material and mix it with conscious awareness so that it “flows” as one.

    When I looked at this card I saw the water as life, the jug as purpose ( the context for your life), and the woman as passion.

    There is an ease and gracious quality to this card, which I find very exciting.

    When we follow our passions, we have an intention,(she is focused), we give it attention (commitment and persistence)and then there is no tension.(ease, grace, flow)

    When we are passionate about something, it is because it brings us joy, because that activity allows us to grow, to expand and to evolve.

    Passions are how you live your life, goals are things which you achieve.
    Keys to creating a passionate life: commitment, clarity, attention, keeping an open mind, integrity, persistence, follow your heart.

    Some of my passions;

    • Bringing joy
    • Sharing quality time and moments with my family
    • Sharing intimate moments with my husband
    • Challenging myself and others
    • Inspiring others
    • Learning and exploring
    • Being curious
    • Teaching others
    • Seeing possibilities
    • New perspectives
    • Paradigm shifts
    • Being open and understanding in my relationships
    • Having a huge and magnanimous heart
    • Bridging the spiritual with everyday
    • Making connections
    • Showing empathy, compassion
    • Expressing who I am
    • Fostering cooperation
    • Creating order from chaos
    • Being enlightened
    • Connecting with people who share my values
    • Nurturing my spirit
    • Coaching

    What are you passionate about?

    Learning to Listen

    Friday, July 6th, 2007

    What did I learn about Listening?

    Wow, where do I begin?

    1. Listening: hearing with my ears but listening with my heart, letting others be heard, inviting others to share their wisdom and knowledge, and accepting that everyone has something important to say. As a life long learner I am always looking to see what lesson I am learning and what course I signed up for in this “Earth Teleclass.”

    I have learned to listen to the energy flow and people’s reactions when I speak. I have learned that each moment is fluid and everyone is unique.

    Through facilitation I have learned that people who feel heard and accepted are ready to listen.

    We accept everyone exactly the way they are without trying to fix them, change them or make them better.

    The more we listen to , invite contribution and sharing, and accept and acknowledge them, the more they will listen and hear us.

    I have learned to listen on many levels while I am speaking:

    • to listen to my thoughts,
    • to listen to those to whom I am speaking,
    • to listen to the silence and stillness for if I fill that space there is no room for others to share
    • to listen before I speak
    • to listen so that I can reflect back what I hear, their contribution, their competencies, their wisdom, their brilliance.
    • to listen with no agenda, to go with the flow and be flexible for whatever awaits you as it will be perfect.

    In my teleclass I even had to listen to a third party recording while listening to the questions and contributions of the other coaches on the call.

    I have learned to stay calm, centred, focused and be fully in the moment no matter what is happening, forget about everything and just Be with people in a loving, supportive and accepting way.

    2. Be real, be authentic, be yourself : express yourself in whatever way is natural to you. “Who we are speaks more loudly than what we say”

    3. Have faith: “Faith grows when you act without knowing the result” Take a risk, step out from the safety zone.

    4. Dear friends: I have met many warm, caring and generous people, I dare to call friends.

    5. Trust: To march to the beat of my own heart. Nervousness is just bottled up excitement. Allow yourself to experience it. Listen to what your heart or intuition tells you.

    How have I changed?

    I feel more confident, I surrendered to diving in the deep end, coming out of my comfort zone. I have realized that surrender is the key to unlock the door of fear. I will always be guided to the exact events and experiences at precisely the right time. I listen for the stories, for the limiting words, for a clients values and what is important to them. I listen so that I can hear their essence.

    Use of Guidance cards as a tool in coaching.

    Monday, May 28th, 2007

    I often use cards with my clients only when they are open and willing. I have achieved amazing results and insights for both the client and myself. I use a variety of decks, Tarot, Grace Cards , Healing Cards and Self-care cards.

    Here are some of the benefits of incorporating decks within a coaching session:

    • Builds rapport
    • Shifts Perspective
    • Uncovers limiting beliefs
    • Creates Passion
    • Highlights values
    • Identifies fears
    • Removes obstacles, blocks and challenges
    • Creativity and brainstorming
    • Acknowledges gifts, talents, skills
    • Sets Goals
    • Clarifies steps that can be taken to achieve goals

    The Guidance Cards have helped my clients “see” their issue, as the art image acts as a mirror. Clients had huge insights, and were able to break through barriers much more easily than by auditory coaching - only using questions.

    Tarot helped them to see clearly what they consciously might not want to acknowledge. It makes them aware of blind spots that they may have.It gives them deeper layers of insight and reveals common themes of which they were unaware.

    It makes the session fun and creates a mood of playfulness, which allows the client to be relaxed and open to creativity and exploration in solutions to the issue at hand.

    Tarot also provides them with confidence in themselves and learning to trust their “gut feelings”, their intuition, their inner knowing. It is extremely vallidating.

    It ‘Cuts to the chase’ in a non-threatening self-paced fashion
    It is the client’s interpretation that is brought to the fore and it is this interpretation that is explored further, with coaching questions and inquiries.

    The descriptive story that the client tells is reframed into the client’s personal reality, emotions, feelings attitudes of the figures are described by the client. Because the card mirrors your life it mirrors your feelings. E-motion is energy in motion, it is a readiness to act. It is impossible for people to think of every possibility, so that emotions become our coping mechanism, they help us cope with the unexpected and they attempt to find more beneficial and advantageous circumstances for us. Emotions shape how we see the world and give life its meaning. Our beliefs arise from the feelings we give to an event, that in turn creates our perspective and reality. Our feelings then determine our actions and then our consequences and outcome. When we work with cards it allows us to see and hear how the images are interpreted by the client and through the client’s eyes. It puts us in their world and we are then able to be more empathetic.

    There are many benefits to using guidance cards- it is a tangible, visual tool - a picture is worth a thousand words Take a chance and open a door to self discovery and empowerment. Remember the cards are all you - every aspect of you. It is your life journey to self-discovery.

    My Teachers’ Workshop

    Saturday, March 24th, 2007

    On Thursday, the 24th at 10:00am, I finally gave the teacher’s training workshop that I had been planning since last June. The principal called me two days before and told me she had a space and was ready for me to give the workshop. Yahoo. I was so calm and cool, so unlike me. It was going to be fun and I had planned three separate workshops, each time trying to personalize it for this group of teachers. I was shocked when I walked in and found at least 12 men in the group, that made me quite uneasy, but then I took a deep breadth and said who needs to be here will be here……….

    The theme was New Year, New Life, New You, and it was geared to letting the teachers have time to evaluate what is most important to them in all areas of their lives and to set goals for this year, so that they feel more balanced, centred and focused.

    It also was about teaching them to support each other in achieving these goals, while giving them tips on how to be a good coach and support for each other. I told them each of these tips could be an entire workshop, so these are just a framework to assist them in supporting one another.

    At the end I asked everyone what they were taking away from the session and the value they had received:

    • It gave me time to look at my life, to see where I needed improvements.
    • It gave me an insight into the lives of my colleagues who I pass daily at work. Many people found this was the greatest value.
    • It gave us a time to support one another
    • It taught me to be able to open my mind more and listen to each other’s views and perspectives.
    • It gave me more focus and clarity. I was able to see my weaknesses and my strengths, and where I could make some improvements.
    • I have done a million of these workshops and wondered what else could I learn, and it was amazing to me how much more I got from this.
    • I am someone who can shut people out and usually do this at all workshops, I fixate on a clock or picture, I can even imagine doodling on your face and time just let time fly bye, but this is the first time I have attended a workshop, listened from beginning to end and participated and got a lot from it.
    • I have realized in this workshop how much easier it is to teach a class than to spend time evaluating myself., and that I prefer to teach in front of a class.
    • I have learned how to open up my perspective, to listen more to what others have to say and that we all have something important to say.
    • I do my own thing and I will carry on doing my own thing and the workshop was not really anything new. The most powerful part for me was having to share in the groups, as I keep my personal life and physical life separate form each other and this was the first time I had to share, and that was different for me.
    • I know all of this stuff, it was not anything new to me but having this tool the “Wheel of life” was extremely useful for me and gave me an image of where my life is right now. Everyone echoed this sentiment.
    • I have learned that I want to l look for the good in the children, to acknowledge them and let go of going to class and only criticizing them. I want to empower and inspire the students as you have done here with us today.
    • I decided that I have become bitter because of all the negativity around us these days and I want to change my outlook and be more positive, and look for the positive instead of the negative.
    • It has given me the opportunity to understand my colleagues better, to understand that I must not judge them or have a stereo type about them, but listen beyond that to who they are. I have been able to learn to be more understanding, and respectful.( a man)
    • I have realized that underneath we are all one and the same.
    • I have realized how important commitments and promises are and when we give our word freely without keeping our promises, we undermine our self esteem.
    • When I began the program I said that I have compartmentalized my life into home, work and play and that I am too old to change, now I feel like I have so much more available to me, there are so many more aspects to my life and I am willing to step out of my “comfort zone” as you said. ( a man)

    And so I have kept my commitment to the Teachers and stretched myself out of a comfort zone. I feel confident now and have learned a lot about planning the workshop, and going with the flow. Don’t over plan because it will take a natural course, and what needs to be discussed will find its way into the session.
    The planning keeps me focused. A place to organize my thoughts and keep my focus clear. The session was extremely interactive, and the learning came with the sharing. Whenever we did an exercise and the entire group would share I would pull out points they said and build on those showing the cornerstones and philosophies of coaching. Also showing them that we each have wisdom within us and if we are willing to listen and learn from one another, instead of giving advice and trying to fix other’s lives, we would be so much richer for it.
    It was an amazing experience and I am so proud of myself for picking up this challenge. It has been a fabulous growth experience. I want to thank the entire group as they played really well, as in coaching we were able to create an empowering space where participants felt free to share their ideas and perspectives with each other. I have been able to take away so much learning from the experience and hope that they will also.
    The three most dangerous words in our vocabulary are “I know that”. These three words can close you down to ever learning anything knew. Just by changing the language that we use we can change our thoughts, feelings and actions. Live life as a life long learner and you will be amazed at what you will learn every day. Conscious awareness is the key to successful lifestyle creation. You are the Creative Manager of your life.

    At the end I took out my Grace cards and made everyone think of the energy they had bought to the room, then I went around the room and let everyone choose a card to see if it gave them any further insights, as to where they needed to pay attention and focus their energy.

    With gratitude to all the participants.