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Power of self acceptance - loving who you are

Sunday, August 16th, 2009

vWe see things not as they are, but as we are….Immanuel Kant

  • Why is it important to accept myself just as I am?
  • How can I accept myself when I am in a negative space?
  • How can I accept myself when I know I am insecure?
  • How do I know whether or not I accept myself?
  • What is the difference between self awareness and self acceptance?

The beliefs we have can shape our entire lives and we may never know what they are. Find them. Then shape them so they work FOR you. Your self image is the lens through which you see the world and upon which you base all your decisions.  Your perception is a projection and the world is a mirror.

Join me Lydia Mattison host of an Empowering Space- Your Hour of Power on Thursday 20th August 2009, with my special guest joining me for a second time, Dr. Sheila Radha Conrad as we discuss the Power of Self Awareness.

Sheila ’s titles are diversified: a Spiritual Guide, Philosopher, Truth Seeker, Aritist, Dancer, Lover of Life.  She describes herself as a seeker of truth, equality and human justice. She has been a transformation counselor for 36 years.  Her purpose is to assist people in coming to clarity and alleviating their suffering, so their innate joy, wisdom, and beauty will arise.

What is the balance point between self-acceptance and personal growth, wanting to grow and improve ourself?

Self acceptance - accepting yourself - the good, the bad and the ugly, without guilt or a sense of inadequacy versus setting goals and wanting to evolve and grow and experience something even better than you experience now?

How do we resolve this conflict?

What do we accept?

What do we change?

The Self Principle according to Robert Holden is an essential key to potential, and talent, transformation and growth, success and happiness.  “The Self Principle states unequivocally that: the quality of your relationship with yourself determines the quality of your relationship with success, happiness and love, God, money, time, health, luck and everything.”...Success Intelligence - Robert Holden Phd.

  • What is the relationship you have with yourself at this moment?
  • How is that mirrored in your other relationships and your environment?
  • How do the beliefs you hold about yourself create your reality?
  • What beliefs have you accepted about yourself as truth?

Date:  August 20, 2009
Time: 5p PST/8 EST

Call in Number: 347-215-8414.

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Come join us for an engaging conversation.  Give this one hour to yourself.

Power of self awareness- Awakening the inner self

Saturday, July 11th, 2009
  • Who am I when I am alone?
  • What have I given up on in my life?
  • How do I sabotage myself?
  • What are my strengths and weaknesses?
  • How do I learn?
  • If I knew I could not fail, I would……
  • If I could do anything in the world, it would be…..

How well do you really know yourself? Are you aware of your thoughts, your beliefs, your motivations? Why do you choose to do some of the things you do? How do your thoughts and words impact your emotions? What is the impact of your words on others?

Developing self awareness does not happen through reading self help books.  This may help, as it opens your mind to new thoughts,  ways of thinking,  and new perspectives, but who is really the expert. YOU.

Developing self awareness is a skill that requires patience, persistence, presence, and compassion. Self awareness is a practice. Through inquiry, we increase our power of observation.

“Knowing others is wisdom, knowing yourself is enlightenment.” - Tao- Tzu

Join me, Lydia Mattison, the host of Empowering Space - Your Hour of Power

Thursday 23rd July at 8:00pm EST as I discuss this topic with an expert Sheila Radha.

Sheila’s titles are many and diversified: A Spiritual guide, Philosopher, Truth seeker, Aritist, Dancer, Lover of Life.  She describes herself as a seeker of truth, equality and human justice. She has been a transformation counselor for 36 years.  Her purpose is to assist people in coming to clarity and alleviating their suffering, so their innate joy, wisdom, and beauty will arise.  She has created an interactive website that teaches you the skills you need to create the life you desire, using both audios to guide you through each of learning sessions, as well as PDF files. She believes that it is an effective way to learn how to create: clear communication, loving relationships, abundance, high self esteem, self confidence, and greater self awareness.

Her site is and you can find her blog at

Please join in the conversation “Power of self awareness” on 23rd July at 8:00pmEST by calling 347 215 8414.

Come experience the power of self awareness as she shares some of her tips and exercises with us.

A Newborn’s conversation with God

Sunday, May 11th, 2008

This came to me by email from a very dear friend of mine.  I wanted to share it with all of you  today on Mother’s Day. The author is unknown to me, but their words ring true.  I have included a link so you can send it to all the loving mothers you have had the privilege to meet.

Look at Baby’s eyes

A baby asked God, ‘They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow, but how am I am going to live there being so small and helpless?’ God said, ‘Your angel will be waiting for you and will take care of you.’

The child further inquired, ‘But tell me, here in heaven I don’t have to do anything but sing and smile to be happy.’ God said, ‘Your angel will sing for you and will also smile for you. And you will feel your angel’s love and be very happy.’

Again the child asked, ‘And how am I going to be able to understand when people talk to me if I don’t know the language?’ God said, ‘Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hea r, and with much patience and care, your angel will teach you how to speak.’

‘And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?’ God said, ‘Your angel will place your hands together and will teach you how to pray.’

‘Who will protect me?’ God said, ‘Your angel will defend you even if it means risking its life.’

‘But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore.’ God said, ‘Your angel will always talk to you about Me and will teach you the way to come back to Me, even though I will always be next to you.’

At that moment there was much peace in Heaven, but voices from Earth could be heard and the child hurriedly asked, ‘God, if I am to leave now, please tell me my angel’s name.’

God said, ‘You will simply call her, ‘Mom’.

Lift a mother’s spirit, send this link to every mother you know no matter how old her child is.

Two nuggets

Thursday, January 24th, 2008

Just wanted to share what I thought were two nuggets on the show Power of the Enneagram- Stepping Outside the box. It perfectly captures stepping out of the box and opening yourself up to a more expansive life and your essence.

Here’s the quote from Roberto Assagioli’s book Will:

I have thoughts, but I am not my thoughts.
I have feelings, but I am not my feelings.
I have a body, but I am not my body.

Then who am I?
I am consciousness and awareness,
and I am able to observe, direct and balance
my psychological processes and my actions.

The other one I was introduced to when studying to be Certified as a Coach and I have never forgotten it. I’m constantly looking to see where I am on the street or if I am going down a different street.  I look at my patterns and think “there’s that pothole again, and make a mental note to take a different turn next time.”

Autobiography in Five Short Chapters

By Portia Nelson


I walk down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I fall in.

I am lost . . . I am helpless.

It isn’t my fault.

It takes forever to find a way out.


I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I pretend I don’t see it.

I fall in again.

I can’t believe I am in the same place.

But, it isn’t my fault.

It still takes a long time to get out.


I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it is there.

I fall in . . . it’s a habit.

My eyes are open.

I know where I am.

It is my fault.

I get out immediately.


I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I walk around it.


I walk down another street.



Our deepest fear

Saturday, November 10th, 2007

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you NOT to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us, it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
~ Marianne Williamson

Tiny Miracles

Sunday, October 21st, 2007

This was such a moving story that came to me in my email, I had to find space to put it up in my articles, as we too had a black Labby called Suede who had to be put down last Christmas. It was an agonizing and painful experience for the entire family. He had cancer and it was too painful to watch his health deteriorate while he suffered, so we had the vet come home where he was comfortable and surrounded by all his loved ones. We had him for eight loving, joyous and fun filled years.

Being a labrador he loved to swim, so he swam regularly in our pool and did laps with my husband every time he went to do his exercise. Whenever my husband tried to get away from him and would go under water, he would swim circles above his head to mark the spot where he was until my husband would run out of breath. If any of the children were playing rough in the pool, he would jump in and put his mouth gently on their arms and drag them out of the pool, that became a game for the children when they were younger. We miss him dearly.

“There is still compassion on this Earth . . read this very moving story . . . tiny miracles take place everyday , if we just take the time to notice.

Meredith’s Mother wrote……..


The Stages of the Work

Monday, August 27th, 2007

The Stages of the Work

If we were to really observe ourselves,
we would become aware of our habits.

If we were to become aware of our habits,
we would let go and relax.

If we were to let go and relax,
we would be aware of sensations.

If we were to be aware of sensations,
we would receive impressions.

If we were to receive impressions,
we would awaken to the moment.

If we were to awaken to the moment,
we would experience reality.

If we were to experience reality,
we would see that we are not our personality.

If we were to see that we are not our personality,
we would remember ourselves.

If we were to remember ourselves,
we would let go of our fear and attachments.

If we were to let go of our fear and attachments,
we would be touched by God.

If we were touched by God,
we would seek union with God.

If we were to seek union with God,
we would will what God wills.

If we were to will what God wills,
we would be transformed.

If we were transformed,
the world would be transformed.

If the world were transformed,
all would return to God.

–from The Wisdom of the Enneagram

Don Richard Riso & Russ Hudson

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

Thursday, July 5th, 2007

Be impeccable with your word

Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.

Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.

Use the power of the word in the direction of truth and love.

Dont’ take anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you.

What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.

When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Don’t make Assumptions

Find the courage to express what you really want.

Communicate with others as cearly as you can  to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.

With just this one agreement you can transform your life.

Always do your best 

Your best is going to chge from moment to moment, it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to when you are sick.

Under any circumstances simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Guidance - Dancing with God

Monday, May 28th, 2007

When I meditated on the word GUIDANCE , I kept seeing “dance” at the end of the word. I remember reading that, doing God’s will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn’t flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky. When one person realizes that, and let’s the other lead, both bodies begin to flow with the music. One gives gentle cues, perhaps with a nudge in the back, Or by pressing Lightly in one direction or another. It’s as if two become one body,moving beautifully. The dance takes surrender, willingness,and attentiveness form one person, and gentle guidance and skill from another. My eyes drew back to the word GUIDANCE . When I saw “G”: I thought of God, followed by “u” and “i” “God”, “u” and “i” “dance”. God, you and I dance. As I lowered my head, I became willing to trust That I would get guidance about my life. Once again, I became willing to let God lead. My prayer for you today is that God’s blessings and mercies be upon you on this day and everyday. May you abide in God as God abides in you. Dance together with God, Trusting God lead and guide to guide you through each season of your life.

Author Unknown


Tuesday, March 13th, 2007

I read of a man who stood to speak
at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning - to the end.

He noted that first came the date of her birth
And spoke of the following date with tears
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years.

For the dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth…
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not how much we own:
The cars…the house… the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard…
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much is left,
(You could be at “dash mid-range”.)

If we could just slow down enough
To consider what is true and real,
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger,
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we’ve never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile…
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.

when your eulogy is being read
With your life actions to rehash…
Would you be proud of the things they say
About your little dash?

Linda M. Ellis